When we first came home with Isaac one of the first things I did was look up his bio mom and dad's names. I've found several women who could be my Isaac's bio mom & one who could be his dad (they weren't married)
..but Levi's bio mom~Levi's bio mom is for sure no mistaken his mom~he looks just like her. It's left me feeling odd to see her, to see that he looks so much like her. She looks so sad :( & that makes me feel sad for her. Levi was her 4th pregnancy. First 2 were miscarriages, 3rd died at 8 months of heart failure & then she was blessed with Levi, but after one month home with him decided to take him to the orphanage. On his RR profile it listed that his family had a hard time leaving him there and visited with him often until his first b-day. After that it was only his maternal grandmother who came anymore. When we commitment to him he was 3 & he was moved to his foster home. We were told that his grandma started to come visit him there too. She would bring food to the family. Later we were told that his bio parents came to see him on his 4th birthday, but his mom refused to hold him or touch him, but introduced him to his little sister :( His father held him briefly and with silent tears handed him back to his foster mom. That was the last time anyone in his family came to see him that we know of. In late '09 we submitted our dossier for him for the second time (the first was in '08 before the invasion of his country that halted our adoption) when we did, we found out that in his file there was missing paperwork that was needed showing his bio mom had relinquished her rights to him. She was found & asked to sign the papers so we could move forward, but she refused. The adoption was stopped. :( Sept. of '10 we got a call letting us know that he was again available with all needed paperwork in place. We don't know the circumstances of it all..if she signed of her own free will or because his county relinquished her rights due to her not taking him home herself...but we do know they were signed. So here we are again. I'm thankful to be here, but it's heartbreaking too. My heart hurts for this women who has these big beautiful brown eyes, like Levi's, and they just look so sad. In the past we asked if we could offer to let this be an open adoption. We were told we could. If it's something she wants, then I'm looking forward to getting in touch with her once he's home. I think she'd like to know about him..I would.
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| The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalm 34:18 |
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| (♥ U Levi) |
3 comments:
Wow... my ♥ goes out to his bio family. People often assume the worst of the bio families but it often isn't true. Thank You for sharing his story.. their story. I agree with you she deserves to know he's OK once he's home. Our hearts are much larger then people give us credit for. Follow your heart Alysha.. follow your heart! ♥
You will be a great mommy to him once he is home, he needs to feel a mother's love as it was meant to be. It is so sad that she gave him up, but in her country, Levi is considered a major issue. Hopefully things will improve there someday as they have here in the states for special children with an extra chromosome. : ) I hope she decides to keep this as an open adoption to see how happy I know he will be.
I did the same thing! When we got our daughter's bio-mom's name I went straight to fb. I don't know if I'll ever try to contact her... but she had zero contact after relenquishment (at 5 days old) so I don't feel like she worries about it as much. I credit you huge for wanting to reach out to this woman. That's beautiful of you!
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